Relationship Cycle

So I just got off the phone with my boyfriend E.J. and he's been telling me that he wants to go and get some help of his anger. He has a temper and when he gets agitated he goes off. I have not only witnessed it, but have experienced it 1st hand and I told him that I don't like it. He's like a different person when he acts like that. After just speaking with him, he tells me that he was only planning on seeing someone for one session and doesn't want to dish his money out to

a therapist. What does he think one session will do. "Oh, well I'll get to tell someone my_problems as if that solves everything". NO, its not that simple. "Well, I just know that I need to stay focus and calm and I can do it by myself." NO, if you can do it by yourself than this wouldn't be an issue now.

I'm drawing the conclusion that EJ doesn't have the ability to change. He is who he is and that is it; except him as he is. And as I have already told him. I will not. Our conversation ends with well lets see what happens when I go. Stop, Stop, Stop..... I wish he just admit that he doesn't want help and doesn't think that he's that bad off.

Just stop taking me around circles with the

I want to change,

I want to do better,

I want to improve the way things are

and on

and on

and on

I don't want to leave him and I keep trying to give him the opportunity to figure things out and not rush him, but now I see I'm waiting for something to happen, but that is not going to happen,

until something happens. I'm not going to wait for that. Its so frustrating when you want to help someone and they don't think anything is wrong. What can you do to help them?