Say How I Feel

I have posted a lot of comments on blog and I find that I write more on other ppl blog then my own sometime. So, to get an idea of how I think I've posted my comment from those blog. In all fairness and out of decency I've posted where I read said topic from. You can call it
MY THOUGHTS' THURSDAY

TOPIC 1: black Women and Perms
to play devil's advocate a bit....what I interpret from what the "customer" said is that we can become conditioned to look a certain way that deviates from our natural looks. This can be the anchor for setting ourselves up for a fall in the end - BECOMING RELIANT.
Society gives ALL of us different products to help us look our best. Making the consumer not more of a major factor than turning a profit, but that is another topic in itself. Anyway, you said it yourself, you wore different style hats to cover up your hair. If you were not conditioned to prefer your hair a particular way, then seeing new growth or whatever made you wear a hat wouldn't of come into play. The "customer" assumed that you are ashamed to rock your hair "kinky"/natural by using perms.
*I gather that naturally you don't have bone straight hair
*You like your hair straight
*So you wear your hair straight (this is your preference, this is what I think "customer" fails to accept)
*Does this deviate from your natural look - Yes
*Is that wrong - NO
*Does that make you less then who you are - NO
Now, when someone offends you its hard not to become defensive and take a chance to hear their point of view, or make sense of anything they say. Since race is always a easy card to pull, she used it. WEAR YOUR HAIR HOW YOU WANT and WEAR IT WILL! I jus think people rely on things of this world to the point that when its gone or unavailable to us we can't function....and that goes beyond hair

TOPIC 2: The N word
I agree that the word is excessively used. As you, I would of let one or two go (especially if I didn't know them well), but when anyone uses it to much I always go and take a mental stab at their intelligence level. I don't care how educated you think you are, if you think that word is socially acceptable to use then their definitely needs to be some reevaluation of your intelligence. I worked with troubled youth, and they used it toward each other as often as Hello. Its funny what your own ppl make acceptable, look at the word "Bitch". Why would any female allow someone to call them a bitch, particularly a male - "is beyond me"

TOPIC 3: Soulmates....is there more that one?
We meet people that influence our lives. The people we marry or decide to live out the rest of our lives with, can be deemed as the best match for us "the 1". But the problem with thinking like that is that we become content with that person, so we don't search any further, so we don't really challenge the idea of a better person for us, any more. If we did this we would spend our lives dating and at the end of that life we may find that the best person was that the end of the road, or fell somewhere in between on the road we traveled. Personally, I dated a guy who I allowed myself to feel the most connected with and it didn't work out. He could of been my soulmate that showed me the level of how deep I could feel. I known a guy that I worked with that was married who I shared a connection with. We connected and was attracted to each other and if he wasn't married I could definitely have seen us having a relationship, but since he was NO CAN DO. He was my soulmate in a sense that he showed me a very senual side to a man that could dive me crazy just as much as a physical side. I'm going with the possibility that we can have more that one soulmate.

TOPIC 4: Africana Studies/ Majors A lost cause or just going to be left out all together...
Abdullah explains: "We're in a crisis of higher education in this country. People are treating higher education as though it's vocational training"....but we're not looking to increase our "critical thinking skills". WOW, how true is that. Even I've fallen victim to thinking just go back to school for 2 more yrs so that you can be in a higher salary bracket. I approached a conversation about said topic before, and I think one problem is that youth (and I remember this being true during my youth) do not get an opportunity to learn enough about African pr African American history is H.S beside the slave trade, and not much time is even spent towards that. Even though I feel that is true, its still an excuse. We still have to take it upon ourselves to seek out the knowledge/education and just have a desire to learn about our history. Sad to say, but that "eagerness to learn" doesn't hit a lot of us until we are way into adult hood. We need more parents, teachers in elementary and junior H.S instilling the message that an African American education is important early. In defense of the red comment, our government is not making it easier for us not to adopt such a policy. How many of us came out of school feeling damn, I got my BA, BS and now I can get that "ILL ASS" (sorry I had to use it LOL) job and was initially disappointed. Soon enough and I mean soon, our master degrees won't mean much in the working class world. So what are we left with, what are we to do?

TOPIC 5: Why don't I like him like that
There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want and definitely what you don't want. If your feelings for him can't pass his height and lil hands, then its not that deep for you and your just not that interested - hello!...Why settle?

TOPIC 6: Nice guys finishing the race last
Truth be told, a physical attraction is the 1st thing that catches the idea. Everyone wants a combination of good looks and great personality. When I'm trying to attract a guy, I want the best guy to be drawn to me, now if his personality suck, he will be following right behind it. There are situation were you get to know someone at work, school (wherever) and build a friendship. As time goes by you become attracted to who they are and the physical becomes secondary. To bad personalities can't be physically seen, love would be much easier. It is also sad that a lot of the time the good looking guy aren't more like the man described above in the poem.

TOPIC 7: What Women Want
I thought the story alone was worth sharing. Which would you choose? Choose one then read the story.
CHOICE #1
[Having a beautiful WOman for everyone to see you walk around with during the day BUT having a ugly woMAN to go to bed with at nite]
CHOICE #2
[Having a ugly woMAN for everyone to see you walk around with during the day BUT having a beautiful WOman to go to bed with at nite.]
[CHOICE #2] It would definitely be having the beauty at home for myself, then just having a beauty in my life for everyone to see during the day. It is more important that I know the truth, then what everyone else see for themselves.